Disposable culture? Disposable ministry?

By / May 11, 2022
An open landfill in an unknown location. Evidence of the disposable consumer culture of the 20th – 21st centuries. Disposable ministry has to go.
What’s with the long hiatus between articles? Simply put, too many other projects! I’m hoping to get back to regular writing here, but in the meantime, posts may be a bit sporadic.

“The bitterness of poor quality remains long after the sweetness of low price is forgotten.”

Attributed to Benjamin Franklin
(Similar quote attributed to Henry Royce)

It’s no secret that we leave in the age of Walmart, “fast fashion” and Keurig K-Cups: inexpensive products for instant gratification. Of course, they come with an unspoken social agreement that it’s all going to end up in the landfill anyway, and that heirloom products (e.g.: furniture that didn’t come from IKEA, hand-stitched leather boots, etc.) are reserved for the ultra-rich.

Sadly, that cultural value has continued to thrive as an invisible ministry value in post-pandemic churches… urgency asks us to build fast which excuses us from the burden of having to build well.

In other words, the “needs” in our ministries are presented as so significant that we are encouraged to prioritize function and immediate impact in our work, even if the long-term sustainability is questionable. Without critique, ministry models reflect the culture from which they come.

So maybe we shouldn’t be surprised that eventually the sweetness of our “low price” projects (e.g.: yet another “new and groundbreaking” leadership approach for $9.99 on Kindle; the decision to promote emotionally and spiritually immature volunteers in order to grow a program; an entire conference dedicated to “tips you can use right now!”) are forgotten.

Water pours out of a ceiling light in a newly built home.

Like the anguish felt when water pours out of the ceiling in a newly built home, “the bitterness of low quality remains after the sweetness of low prices [has subsided]” in ministry.

Without critique, ministry models reflect the culture from which they come.

Every post-pandemic ministry leader knows something about this bitterness:

  • It turns out your formerly enthusiastic church members weren’t mature disciples after all.
  • The “rapidly educated” pastors around you are painfully lacking in depth, unable to speak wisely into complex issues.
  • “Innovative and brave” new ministry strategies completed their evaporation into ineffectiveness post-pandemic, turning out to be little more than gimmicks.
  • As ministry gurus and “successful” networks imploded, ordinary leaders are fearfully left to make sense of why.
  • Despite spending millions of dollars collectively on new models and approaches, the church has less penetrating relevance and a more damaged reputation within Western Culture than ever before.

Ultimately, we are where we are because we built quickly instead of well. We accidentally mirrored the “cheap and fast” ethic of the culture instead of the “slow and rich” ethic of Jesus.

How do you know if you’re embracing “cheap and fast”?

So how do we know if we’re doing this? In some ways, we all participate in the “sins of our culture” (Jacques Ellul), but that shouldn’t prevent us from doing an honest self-evaluation:

  1. You’re putting off what’s best because it will take “too long.”
    Urgency distracts, but don’t forget that time is going to pass anyway. While you may look back and realize that if you had committed to “best” instead of “quick” 10 years ago, you’d be in a better place today, you still have a lot of future in front of you! Instead of getting discouraged, get going! Change your thinking.
  2. You’re dismissing “most healthy” in favour of “most fun.”
    Healthy is rarely “fun”… it’s generally an agony as we experience when we start going to the gym or commit to cutting caffeine out of our diets. Truthfully, we all find it much easier to spend $39 a month on a “miracle supplement” than we would addressing the patterns and habits in our lives that brought us into our current crisis. Change your thinking.
  3. You’re focused on image instead of impact.
    Whether it’s fixating on a celebrity pastor or jealously emulating their social media strategy, in today’s “Instagram World” pastors don’t actually need to be successful in their ministry… they just have to look like they are. Image and persona carry a cost of substance (as Neil Postman aptly pointed out); but it’s more immediately gratifying to build a platform than it is to become a person who has something of substance to say. Change your thinking.

So… what can you do about it?

Here are 4 great ideas that launch you hard away from “low price, low quality.”

  1. Start your next (or first) theological degree.
    I know, you’ve been putting it off. The ministry is too urgent and too busy. But the truth is that you’ll be a better practitioner in ten years if you are challenged to think critically and rooted in a deeper understanding of scripture and culture. Here’s the key… it doesn’t need to be a “full time” commitment. Personally, I took a few graduate courses a year for almost a decade while I pastored. And with the availability of quality distance-based learning, you can likely pursue that undergrad or graduate degree without an expensive commute (see the end of this article for a recommendation).
  2. Complete a seasonal “no practical books” challenge.
    Going into the summer, you’ve likely got a list of books you’ve been hoping to read. Try this challenge: prune from the list all of the current books on method and practice and instead dive into brilliant authors who are engaging core ideas instead. I suspect that a summer of Leslie Newbigin, Jacques Ellul, CS Lewis, and St. Athanasius will have a greater impact on your ministry than five “Top Ten best-sellers” from the ministry conference book table. You’re already an expert on your local context… fuel your mind with good content and see what happens.
  3. Prune and Invest.
    How many underfunded and poorly resourced ministries do you oversee? Which one has the best potential to utterly transform your church and community over the next ten years if properly supported? Use these questions to begin an evaluation process that will ultimately result in the cancellation and dismantling of less productive ministries (Hint: Are they doing a great job at discipling believers or reaching lost people? No? Bring on the axe…) so that you can redirect resources to the ones that are. Resist the urge to evaluate using an “immediate success” evaluation matrix. Plan for a 10-year impact and be steady.
  4. Unfollow and Connect.
    Take a break from the “ministry influencers” and “celebrity pastors” that are dominating your social media feeds. Mute or unfollow them (temporarily) to clear your digital space, and instead seek inspiration in-person with a far less famous peer. Find a a rarely celebrated and totally underestimated mentor who has time for slow conversations and is actually interested in knowing you.

We can no longer afford “cheap”.

As we face a national clergy shortage, a universal 25% church attendance decline and innumerable cultural landmines, one thing the church cannot afford is anymore “cheap” solutions. We need rich, qualified, “built to last” approaches birthed in the hearts of disciples with substance… not easy, practical, “turn-key” approaches birthed in a clever marketing department.

Pursuing this method means putting our dreams of “results this season” on hold while we invest in a better future. I hope that future begins with you making that kind of investment into yourself.

Education Recommendations

As you may know, I work full-time as the Director of the Youth Ministry Major in the B.Th program at Master’s College & Seminary (www.mcs.edu). I want to take this opportunity to reach out to pastors (especially youth pastors!) that have not yet completed their undergraduate education. Master’s offers a robust distance learning program and we’d be thrilled to help you complete. Of course, if you live in Eastern Ontario, there are even more opportunities with in-person learning.

If you’d like to begin your undergraduate training with a course in Youth Ministry, I’d be happy to connect in order to help make that happen. Please use the “request information” link here and we’ll be in touch.

Sharpening your preaching to Teenagers

By / October 16, 2021
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We’ve all had one of those days where we step off the stage highly discouraged and genuinely wonder why God decided we would be a good choice to preach His word to young people.

Those moments of woe can come from anything: a misguided attempt to make the Levitical rituals “interesting”, an illustration that just didn’t play with your group, or hours and hours of prep that just didn’t translate into anything clear (let alone life-changing).

Rather than give you a pep-talk on being kind to yourself after you preach (which you should, by the way), I want to share a few of my best tips for preaching to teenagers; things I learned from the trenches over 20-years with a microphone in my hand.

1. Ditch the three-point sermon.

Please. Hear me. If there’s nothing else you do, do this: Stop preaching 3-point sermons.

On their best days, your audience (yes… I said audience… because teens and adults are just the same here!) is going to remember one point from your message. When you preach 3 points, you’re not just rolling the dice on what they’ll remember, you’re actually increasing the chances that they’ll be overloaded and won’t remember anything.

If there’s nothing else you do, do this:
Stop preaching 3-point sermons.

I’ve heard Pastors say “… but there are three clear principles here that need to be shared.” Well, as Andy Stanley says in Communicating for a Change, “Congratulations – you’ve got a series.” Regardless of what you were raised to believe, human beings aren’t good multi-taskers in dynamic environments. Oh sure, you can read a 3-point essay and hold onto it no problem… but when it comes to live, dynamic communication? That’s a different story. We have one-track minds and we can really only focus on one thing at a time.

If you shift your preaching style and focus on sharing ONE big idea from the text in each message, two things are going to happen:

  1. Your audience impact is going to improve. With only one point, the likelihood that your audience will remember the ONE THING that you’re trying to communicate is going to go through the roof. If they remember what you’ve said, the likelihood they do something about it is also going to improve.
  2. Your sermon prep process is going to become simpler. With only one point to focus on, your brain is going to be more focused; and your messages are going to become richer and more clear.

2. Know your audience.

I’d be a wealthy man if I had $5 for every stereotypical youth sermon that ultimate ends with an application like…

  • “Read your bible…”
  • “So don’t date an unbeliever…”
  • “Stand up for Jesus in your school!”

(And double-points for every time someone invites them to the front to nail some sins to a cross…)

The teens in your community need so much more than these predictable tropes on a youth night. They’re complex persons that are wrestling with ethics, experiencing joys and sorrows, and genuinely in needing to be grounded in the truth of Gods word.

One of the biggest mistakes youth pastors make is preaching one-dimensional sermons from the mistaken belief that their teens aren’t ready for wider content.

One of the biggest mistakes youth pastors make is preaching one-dimensional sermons from the mistaken belief that their teens aren’t ready for wider content.

The solution to this problem isn’t greater complexity (no, you shouldn’t put together a 9-part series on Augustinian Theology for your junior high group…); the solution is listening more.

One of the disciplines I executed faithfully for almost 20-years was the “I have time for you….” coffee meet up. I just wanted to make sure I was available to sit across from a 15-year old and hear about what was “happening” in their lives. Sometimes we talked about faith, sometimes we talked about dreams and future ambitions, and sometimes we talked about really hard things. But taking this time to really know my audience meant that I could preach messages to the whole community that were actually connected to the raw and real realities of their lives.

Rather than get complex, I got simple. I preached sermons that answered questions like…

  • What does it mean to find God’s presence in the midst of loneliness?
  • What does it look like to live faithfully as a disciple of Jesus in the “ordinary-ness” of our lives?
  • How can I “think Christianly” about my mental health?

When you know your community exceptionally well, you’ll avoid the trap of preaching weak sermons based on surface-level assumptions.

When you know your community exceptionally well, you’ll avoid the trap of preaching weak sermons based on surface-level assumptions.

3. Rehearse. Then watch yourself.

I know. You don’t want to. But here’s why you need to:

There’s a HUGE gap between the way you experience your preaching and the way your audience experiences your preaching. And the wider you let that gap become, the less effective you’re going to be.

There’s a HUGE gap between the way you experience your preaching and the way your audience experiences your preaching.

The content of your preaching is really important. But content that’s poorly delivered? Well, it has about as much impact as poor content.

Record yourself and watch. Take notes.

  • Where are you trying to make up for a lack of memorization with flailing hand gestures (always while your eyes read directly from your notes…)?
  • How many times did you say, “And, um –” or “OK…”
  • Was that story you love to tell actually fun to listen to? (Ouch, I know that hurt… sorry)
  • Are you comfortable enough in your content that your spiritual leadership is coming through? Or is it just a full-blast max-bandwidth information dump?

Figure out what it’s like to listen to you preach. And then rehearse your message until your delivery matches the quality of your content.

Rehearse your message until your delivery matches the quality of your content.

Week-in and week-out, keep watching you and rehearsing. The biggest benefit will be invisible at first: you’ll be so comfortable with your message that you’ll be able to connect better with the teens in the room. You’ll be more personal. You’ll be more warm and responsive. You’ll be teaching them as their pastor, not lecturing them as their in-person Theology Wiki.

5 Ideas to build the best (and happiest) Volunteer Team

By / October 7, 2021
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I’ve noticed that when a youth ministry is highly effective there is always an enthusiastic and engaged volunteer team living their best life behind the scenes.

You’ve probably noticed that too, and my guess is that you’ve probably taken every step you can think of to attract the right leaders and build that team up.

Here’s 5 quick ideas to help you in your quest to build the best (and happiest) volunteer team… things you can do right now.

1. Have the hard talk with your low-performers.

If this sounds like the WORST advice ever, hear me out: that leader who always shows up late, who never follows through on their commitments (and who has been told repeatedly not to make fun of students) is ruining your team morale.

After 20 years of working with volunteers, I can say with certainty that your high-capacity team members won’t last very long alongside the antics of an immature or unreliable volunteers; they’ll disengage and question why they’re showing up.

… that leader who always shows up late, who never follows through on their commitments (and who has been told repeatedly not to make fun of students) is ruining your team morale.

While dealing with these issues might make you nervous, I promise you this: your team will thank you for braving-up and having a tough conversation about what needs to change with your low-performance volunteers. In fact, your high-performers will be more engaged, feel the their contribution is more valued, and be more likely to help you push forward in a tough season.

2. Say “THANK YOU” with more than just words.

To be clear, the words “Thank you” should have a permanent address on your lips. But don’t leave it there. Here are a few things that show thankfulness and won’t break the bank.

  • A personal invite for dinner, dessert or a bonfire in the backyard… with no “shop-talk”. It’s important our team members know we see them as more than just “contributors” and one of the simplest ways to get that across is just time-spent.
  • A thoughtful card with that communicates the specific things that you notice and appreciate… delivered on a completely ordinary occasion (e.g.: not for Christmas or end of year wrap up).
  • A gift card for a favourite Coffee Shop or Smoothie Bar… especially after an extra wild Junior High Weekend!
  • If your budget allows for it, pay for a leadership conference or a great book on youth ministry… show your volunteers they are worth investing into.
  • Don’t keep your praises of your team members captive in your head… speak so well of your volunteers to others in the church so often that this sort of “good gossip” gets back to them.

3. Stop micro-managing. They’ve got gifts, let them loose!

There are 2 ingredients to job satisfaction: progress and meaning. In other words, the work you’re doing should matter and you should be able to see what you’re accomplishing.

Too often youth pastors only allow volunteers to have “tiny” jobs, or they micro-manage things to the point where the volunteer is little more than a warm body. This does not bring out the best in your volunteers; if you see these tendencies in yourself, do your team a favour and make a list of the skills, spiritual gifts and life-experiences that each of your team members have. Then, beside each one, decide what you can “let them loose” with: let them take on the real responsibility for something.

Nobody wants to be a “token” leader (and besides, you need to get some key things off your plate!); by giving away real jobs and real responsibility you’re communicating clearly to your team members… “I know you’re capable of meaningful ministry, and I trust you.” Trust-rich environments are more productive and more enjoyable for everyone.

Trust-rich environments are more productive and more enjoyable for everyone.

4. Celebrate REALLY well.

The only thing more frustrating than a loss is a win that gets missed. Your team works hard, and they’re doing ministry that is eternally significant. Be sure that you stop to celebrate the wins and the highlights of ministry. Throw a party! Make a big deal.

Ultimately, you get more and more of what you celebrate. So make a list of things that are worth celebrating, and start stockpiling the balloons and ice-cream.

5. Make room for REAL communication.

If the only conversation with your team is a one-way monologue (vision-casting, calendar updates, memos on policies), you may be missing out on the real potential of what God’s given in the team that’s working alongside you!

From ideas on what to do next, to honest feedback about what isn’t really clear (e.g.: your expectations, their job description, what the ministry goals are), you need to hear back from your team regularly. That means making room for two-way conversation.

Often when good feedback and idea flow isn’t happening, it’s because there just isn’t the opportunity. Your volunteer team aren’t robots who can provide “ideas on demand” or produce instant feedback with no prior warning. It takes time for people to process, digest and then find the words to share these things with you.

Your volunteer team aren’t robots who can provide “ideas on demand” or produce instant feedback with no prior warning. It takes time for people to process, digest and then find the words to share these things with you.

Your job as a leader is to make sure that there’s room for that conversation. Here’s what it takes:

  • Timing. Where is there enough margin for conversations like this? If your meeting agendas are packed or your in-person events are busy until the very end, your team may never feel like it’s a “good time” to go there.
  • Safety. Have your team members seen other peoples ideas and feedback honoured? Heard? Acted on? Sharing ideas and feedback can be nerve-racking. It takes intentionality to create an environment that feels safe to speak up.
  • Invitation. Is it clear you want to know what your team thinks? Or might they conclude that their ideas are just a nuisance to your master plan? Think carefully about how you present yourself and be sure to ask your team members what they think on a regular basis.

Almost every leader I know values their volunteer team extensively. Unfortunately, they don’t always show it well. I hope these quick ideas will help you to turn-up your intentionality with your team this season. Your ministry will be better for it!

I HEAR YOU // The Practice of Listening in Youth Ministry

By / September 24, 2021
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As a general rule, youth pastors talk for a living (yes, even introvert youth pastors)… and if volunteer appreciation were a pay check, the same could be said for key volunteer youth workers and long-term small group leaders.

Whether it’s teaching the bible, praying at the end of a youth event, encouraging a parent or telling a great story to a group of junior highs, our roles revolve around communication and those of us who have been at it for a while have invested heavily in being better communicators. So the first time I realized that my listening, not my talking, was making the biggest impact on the students in my youth group I was shocked!

So the first time I realized that my listening, not my talking, was making the biggest impact on the students in my youth group I was shocked.

After all… I had been to *bible college*! I had such insightful things to share! How was it that listening well to students could have an even bigger impact than my best sermon? It would be years before I understood why, but I’m happy to share how the practice of listening in youth ministry made me a more effective pastor.

Why Listening Well is So Powerful

1. Listening models God’s character.
Have you ever noticed what a good listener God is? I mean, think about the last time you really prayed… you poured out your deepest feelings, your thoughts, and your questions to the God of the Universe and — he listened to you. Perhaps one of the deepest mysteries of prayer is the reality from Psalm 8:4:

What are mere mortals that you should think about them?
Human beings that you should care for them?

God, our Good Father, (who I’m sure has plenty of other very important things to do!) has time to listen to us. When we listen to our students well (not half-there or semi-attentive), we are pointing students to the One who does this best.

2. Listening tells the truth about identity.
One of the fundamental realities about the teen years is a deep wrestling with insecurities over identity and value. Their brains have developed rapidly in this time period, and with a newly developed capacity to actually consider what it means to be a fallen human being (one who is imperfect, wrestles with sin, makes mistakes, hurts others, and doesn’t flawlessly exist in this world) it’s no wonder that our students look in the mirror some days and wonder if they are “worth it” to anybody.

… it’s no wonder that our students look in the mirror some days and wonder if they are “worth it” to anybody.

While your words of affirmation are important, nothing speaks as loudly as your careful, thoughtful, uninterrupted listening presence in their lives. We may say that teenagers matter, but listening well proves we believe it.

We may say that teenagers matter, but listening well proves we believe it.

3. Listening creates an opportunity for meaningful processing.
As much as we all believe we know what we think, it’s usually not until we say it out loud, talk it out and have someone we actually trust hear what we’re saying that we really arrive anywhere. Listening well builds trust; with that trust and even more good listening we are able to give a unique gift to the students in our lives: a quiet place to process in a world of busyness and noise.

It’s not the lack of information that makes life complicated for today’s teens; it’s no place to “think” and reflect to develop the deep wisdom that makes our lives rich and meaningful. Listening well fights back against all of this.

How to Do it Better

I hope I’ve reminded you just how powerful great listening really is… So how do we do it really well?
Here’s a few things you can put into practice right away.

  • Get your phone out of sight, and don’t pick it up EVER during the conversation.
    (Stop making excuses, there are other ways of keeping an eye on the time!)
  • Stop interrupting. Don’t finish their sentences.
    (This is THE habit you need to break… it’s not helping you, it’s hurting your effectiveness.)
  • Let your eyes scream “delight“.
    (God delights in His children, and you have the privilege of sharing in that delight. Look at your students when they’re talking.)
  • Silence the conversation in your head.
    (It’s ok if you need a minute to think of what to say when they pause and ask what you think! Resist the temptation to be planning your response while they’re pouring out their heart.)
  • Be curious, not certain.
    (When you’re certain you’ve got the right answer, you’ll start giving advice. When you’re curious about what they’re thinking, what God’s saying and how they’re feeling, you’ll ask great questions.)
  • Say thank you.
    (Hearing someone’s heart is a tremendous privilege. Make sure they know that you feel that way! Always thank student’s for trusting you and sharing their life with you.)

God delights in His children, and you have the privilege of sharing in that delight. Look at your students when they’re talking.

The best part about improving your listening ministry is that it doesn’t matter what’s on your calendar this week, you’ll have an opportunity to practice it! And if this week is “talk-heavy” for you (preaching, teaching, small-group, etc.) I’m praying that this will be a useful touch point for you as you look for the key moments to hear what the students in your ministry are saying.

Creating a Culture of Prayerfulness in Youth Ministry

By / September 17, 2021
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In our high-speed culture, engaging in long, thoughtful moments of prayer doesn’t come naturally. Even the most mature followers of Jesus, people who are entirely convinced that their prayer life is crucial, still struggle to develop routines and rhythms of deep prayerfulness. So how can we help teenagers to pray? How can we develop a culture of prayerfulness in our ministries?

So how can we help teenagers to pray? How can we develop a culture of prayerfulness in our ministries?

Why it matters:

  • Your students will be “stuck” spiritually if they don’t do this; an active prayer life is the assumption in the New Testament
    … in fact, try imagining a disciple of Jesus, from any point in history that doesn’t pray! Prayer is central to our communion with God and our life of faith. (See Matthew 6:6, Matthew 21:22, Mark 11:24-25, Luke 11:9, Luke 18, John 15, Ephesians 6:18, Philippians 4:6-7, James 5:13-18, 1 John 5:14…. I could go on here.)

  • Teens who pray regularly are 18% less likely to suffer from depression
    Along with showing up to church, cultivating a great prayer life is one of the best things your students can do for their own mental health (see the research here: https://academic.oup.com/aje/article/187/11/2355/5094534).

  • Let’s be honest – prayer is the key to growing your youth ministry
    As slick as your programs have become, we both know that life change and transformation depend on Jesus…. not that new fog machine.

Three ideas for promoting prayerfulness in your youth ministry:

1. Don’t plan an activity, build a culture

Have you every shown up to a new place where everyone already knew each other, and it only took you about 5 minutes to realize what you’d need to do to “fit in”? Whether it was “not talking too loudly” or acknowledging a deep reverence for the musical contributions of Jimmy Hendrix, the cues in the group were clear to you.

These behaviours were normalized, and you knew right away, “that’s just what this group is about.” Contrast that with most youth ministries where we make a REALLY big deal about prayer… but not in a good way. When ministry leaders say things like, “OK everyone, I know we’re all having fun, but we need to stop and pray…” I cringe. What you’re really saying is that prayer is both boring and an unnatural “bolt-on” option to the program…. and what that really means is that when students (and leaders) feel prompted by the Holy Spirit to engage in prayer, they’re going to have to fight their inner voice of insecurity before they act on it.

When ministry leaders say things like, “OK everyone, I know we’re all having fun, but we need to stop and pray…” I cringe.



Flip the script. “Hey everyone, it’s that time of night where we always pause to thank God for his gift of community…” As a youth ministry leader, when you normalize prayer as the most “natural” thing in your community, you give everyone else permission to embrace it without being “weird”.

Try this out all month long and see what happens:

  • “Thanks for attending this meeting. Can we just quickly pray over these plans before we head home?”
  • “I’m just about to head up on stage to speak… would you mind praying for me?”
  • “Hey Phil, it’s great to see you. The whole team pauses for prayer at 6:30, do you want to join us?”
2. Take the pressure off students

Second-guessing yourself is an unintentional hobby for teens. So while God’s invitation to us in prayer is to meet with our good and loving Father, it’s easy for a 14-year old to worry that they “might not be doing it right.” The fear that I “won’t feel anything” or that I’ll be “doing it wrong” the whole time can stop your students from engaging before they even start.

The fear that I “won’t feel anything” or that I’ll be “doing it wrong” the whole time can stop your students from engaging before they even start.

Mark Yaconelli has great advice here, and suggests that we should invite students to “do an experiment” when it comes to connecting with God in prayer. Try this on your next retreat or gathering and see what happens:

“Jesus told us that when we pray, we’re talking to our Good Father. We’re going to do an experiment together… rather than worry about getting your words right, take a few minutes privately to just pray out loud whatever is in your heart: worries, ideas, plans, anything. We’ll come back afterwards and talk about what that was like — just unloading on God without worrying about how it sounds.”

3. Make better decisions on what you “cut”

We’ve all been there when everything is running behind and the doors are supposed to open in 22 minutes. Between the mishap with game-setup, that soundboard problem, or the volunteers who said they’d bring the snacks but forgot, you’re feeling pretty overwhelmed.

What gets cut?

Usually (if we’re being honest), it’s prayer. Prayer gets abbreviated to, “Hey we have a lot to do, so as you’re working please pray that everything goes well tonight…” And before we know it, we’re in a pattern where 3 out of 4 youth nights have rushed, skipped or anemic prayer preparation.

I hate to say it, but what we “cut” tells us the truth about what we believe is responsible for life-change in our youth ministries. In a ministry where rehearsals, game prep or sound-check are never cut for time, but prayer frequently is, we need to be tell ourselves the truth: while theologically we believe prayer is essential, practically we believe it’s expendable.

I hate to say it, but what we “cut” tells us the truth about what we believe is responsible for life-change in our youth ministries.

Even if it means putting up with a sub-standard game or asking a few volunteers to finish putting out the snacks during the bible study, the long-term effect of prioritizing prayer both privately in your ministry preparation and publicly in front of your team will be substantial. That’s not to say that if there’s an emergency, or something uniquely odd happens that you need to become legalistic around this… it is to say that we need to flip the “cut” stats when we’re running behind, skipping prayer 5% of the time instead of 95% of the time.

The best thing about cultivating prayerfulness in your youth ministry?

It reduces the pressure on you, as a youth ministry leader, to have all the answers and produce all the results. It keeps all eyes on Jesus as the author and perfecter of our faith, and it deepens both ours and our students dependence on Him.